Heartbreak: Over 100 People Share How Their Crushes Went Wrong
Old Fashioned
One woman I briefly dated was introduced to me by a friend. She was going through a divorce but seemed very put together and impressed me on the first date. The second date, however, started to expose her true colors: she brought her eight year old son who sat there with his hands over his ears the whole time, miserable, and unable to hold a conversation because of his crippling lack of self-confidence. Come to find out, her husband had basically spoiled her, provided for her in every way so that she never worked and she was looking for a replacement now that he had left her. She flat out told me she was looking for an “old fashioned” man, meaning one who would foot the bill, treat her like a queen, and whisk her off to foreign cities regularly to stay in fancy hotels. That was the point that my intial feelings soured towards her. I was not down to be used by someone like that, especially when we had just met. I was mad at the time, now I feel sorry for her. She endured years of lying and cheating from her ex husband only to be left to fed for herself in the end. It was a classic case of outsourcing your sense of self to a romantic partner.
